Transgender activists say we should call people what they call themselves. Refusing to do so is disrespectful. An example would be "Caitlyn" Jenner. To continue to call "her" Bruce is bigoted.
i) Although that's sometimes true, I'm under no obligation to cooperate with your agenda, and you have no right to coerce me into endorsing your agenda by making me adopt your propagandistic designations.
ii) In addition, from what I've read, there are gay standup comedians who sprinkle their routines with pejorative epithets about homosexuals. Likewise, there are black standup comedians (and hip-hop performers) who use pejorative epithets about blacks. By the same token, some black pundits use derogatory epithets about black conservatives or black Republicans like Clarence Thomas and Condi Rice.
Does the self-usage of blacks and homosexuals in that case authorize whites to repeat the same derogatory epithets?