Trash collector

why is "don't have sex if you're not ready to have a baby" only said to women and never to men"

That's a comment I recently ran across. I expect it epitomizes why many women support abortion. They don't want to be single mothers, so they want to have abortion as an ejection seat. 

There's a certain irony in girls who are part of the hook-up culture, then complain about the quality of the boys they meet. Get a clue. You are the magnet. In a hookup culture, the quality of the boys reciprocates the quality of the girls and vice versa. Trashy boys attract trashy girls while trashy girls attract trashy boys. 

The guys in your social circle mirror your own values. Promiscuous women select for promiscuous men and vice versa. Self-fulfilling behavior.  If you go fishing in the hookup culture, that selects for your experience. 

Shotgun marriage

If abortion is illegal then men abandoning their child should also be illegal. If this was a permanent decision for me then it is for you as a father also.

— Ricky Spanish (@5headshawtyyy) May 12, 2019

This comment has gotten a lot of buzz. 

i) She acts like she's never heard of marriage

ii) Skimming her tweets to locate the original tweet, this is example of what happens to people with no Christian frame of reference. Utterly lost. A stimulus-response organism. They act like animals in heat. Utterly selfish. No realization that if babies don't have rights, why should women have rights? It boils down to raw power. 

iii) It doesn't occur to her that she hangs around the wrong kind of men, then complains about what she ends up with. It's so predictable. 

iv) There are fathers who want to keep their child, but current law gives the mother the unilateral choice to abort. Fathers of the child have no legal say in abortion. They've been disenfranchised from having a claim on their own child. In addition, women divorce men at much higher rates than men divorce women. Women usually get custody while the dad is stuck with child support even though he doesn't have custody or joint custody and even visitation rights may be iffy. So the "deadbeat dad" trope is often slanderous to well-meaning men who have all the responsibilities but none of the rights. If you want responsible men, you must give them a stake in the transaction. 

Lady-killers

There are probably many people, I don't know the percentages, who reject Christianity because they chaff at Christian sexual ethics. They find Christian sexual ethics too restrictive. Right now I'm not talking about homosexuality, but heterosexuality. In particular, premarital and extramarital sex. 

They think that to be a Christian, you must practice sexual self-denial. And there's an important element of truth to that. But it's exaggerated. And ironically, there's a sense in which the opposite is more often the case. 

Suppose, for the sake of argument, that we temporarily bracket the issue of morality and just respond to them on their own grounds. Let's say your priority is to maximize your opportunities for sex. What's the most reliable strategy? 

There are some men and women who have great sexual magnetism. For instance, Warren Beatty, in his heyday, was a notorious lady-killer. Apparently, few women ever turned him down. At least, the kind of women who moved in the same circles he did. And not just women in general, but beautiful women. And, of course, there are some women whom few men would refuse. 

For a Warren Beatty, Christian sexual ethics would drastically curtail his sexual lifestyle. However, most men and women don't have that kind of sex appeal. Most men can't pick up a beautiful women whenever they please. Most men can't attract a new sexual partner every night. Same thing for most women. Most of us just aren't irresistible to the opposite sex. 

For the average man or women, marriage, far from hampering their sexual opportunities, is the most reliable setting for them to have sexual relations on a regular basis. Marriage makes sexual opportunities available to them in a way that playing the field does not. 

Even Warren Beatty eventually settled down and got married. Perhaps, as he began to age, he lost his magic touch. 

Or consider the plight of Richard Carrier. He dumped his wife to be openly promiscuous. But what does he bring to the table? The charges of sexual harassment are hardly surprising. On the face of it, he doesn't have much to offer. If he waits for women to seek him out, it will be a long wait. 

For the average man or woman, if you wish to maximize your opportunities for sex, marriage is your best bet. It is, of course, true that in a Christian marriage you must forgo extramarital liaisons that happen to present themselves unbidden. But unless you're a Warren Beatty, you don't have a reliable supply of one-night stands. Many nights you sleep alone. 

Admittedly, that's a crass way of putting it, and I'm not suggesting that that's the ideal way to frame the issue, but right now I'm going head-to-head with people who think in those terms. Even on those terms, they have far more to gain, and little to lose, when it comes to Christian sexual ethics. Honestly, you're not someone who scores that often when you play the field. And as you age, opportunities dwindle. 

Support For Same-Sex Marriage Associated With Support For Other Forms Of Sexual Immorality

Andrew Walker has a good post at National Review about how professing Christians who support same-sex marriage also have anti-Biblical views on other sexual issues. Take a look at the chart in his post. Notice how radically immoral "Gay and Lesbian non-Christians" are. That's not the focus of Walker's post, but it deserves some attention. Even the professing Christian homosexuals have remarkably high levels of support for other forms of sexual immorality. Contrast those study results to the image of homosexuals portrayed by the media, Hollywood, etc.

The Apostasy Of Matt Slick's Daughter

I saw Brian Auten link to an article on the subject. The article is by Glenn Peoples. He makes some good points, and I won't repeat all of them here, but I do want to quote one paragraph. First, though, let me quote what he's responding to from Matt Slick's daughter, Rachael Slick: