Thursday, June 23, 2011

The Health Benefits of Remaining Loyal

There are genuine health benefits that go along with being loyal: loyal to a spouse, or loyal to an employer or to employees.
Studies looking at loyalty and trust suggest that these qualities may be fundamental to human relationships, some psychologists say. In life, there are few guarantees that another person isn't going to hurt us, they say. Therefore, staying loyal to someone, and preserving a mutual feeling of trust, allow people to be able to function with others without constantly suspecting their motives, they say.

Long-term commitment in relationships is tied to a greater sense of life satisfaction, happiness and a host of practical benefits, such as shared assets and children, research shows. People with strong social support or social engagement have been found to have lower risk of diabetes, hypertension and heart attacks. One study of 4,000 men over a 22-year period found that married men in their 50s, 60s and 70s lived significantly longer than those of the same age who were never married or who were divorced or widowed, according to research by the RAND Center for the Study of Aging.

Another study, of 130 newlywed couples, found that almost all of the couples' conflict discussions were about whether or not they could count on the other person. Couples who were best at developing trust and loyalty in the relationship were those who focused on maximizing the well-being of their partner, not themselves, says John Gottman, director of the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle and an emeritus psychology professor at the University of Washington.

3 comments:

  1. One study of 4,000 men over a 22-year period found that married men in their 50s, 60s and 70s lived significantly longer than those of the same age who were never married or who were divorced or widowed

    So in a sample of men, the married ones lived longer. Therefore, marriage makes you live longer. Interesting logic.

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  2. The study wasn't intended to prove causation. But if there is a high degree of correlation, why not further explore that correlation? Doesn't everyone want to live "significantly longer"?

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  3. Long life, shmong life. I value the joy and happiness of the life with the spouse I share mutual trust with far greater than the number of years I can squeeze out of my broken body.

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