Steve sends along this article: "Hypergamy and Singleness in the Church" by Michael Scott Foster. Well worth reading. I hope it's widely circulated among Christians.
Several people make valuable comments in Foster's Facebook post too (especially the ever incisive Bnonn).
Remember, when it comes to Bnonn, the nonn is silent...
ReplyDeleteI've heard rumors that Bnonn's real name is actually David. If so, that might explain why he keeps popping in and out of a police box. :-)
DeleteSeems all so very discouraging to those of us who are short, prefer to lead from behind and don't make a lot of money (well I wouldn't want to marry rich anyway).
ReplyDeleteI doubt either of those make one less masculine as I see so often from people like that.
Depends what you mean by "lead from behind". It is part of God's created order that he intends men to take responsibility; and trying to palm responsibility off onto one's wife is ungodly.
DeleteHi Trent,
DeleteDon't give up, man. I mean if marriage is your goal. You almost have to treat dating like applying for a job, where you put in the time and effort to get yourself out there, interview prospective employers, etc.
Also, not everyone needs or wants to be married to the kinds of women that many women even in our churches are becoming.
Plus, I think as men and women approach approximately age 30 or so, the dating dynamics change. Women, no matter how successful in worldly terms, become less desirable with age, while men become more. So a lot of women approaching age 30 or so end up marrying down, while a lot of men end up marrying up - that is, if a woman wants to have children and a family and all that.
However, all that said, my opinion is it's better to be a lonely single than an unhappily married person. What I mean is married to a wife whose priorities aren't Christ and Bible centered, even if she professes to be a Christian. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, I'm afraid. Just my opinion though. I'm sure there are so a lot of happily married Christian couples, but I'm just saying to look before you leap.