tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post1523541544964926916..comments2024-03-27T17:15:37.606-04:00Comments on Triablogue: Crossing the lineRyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17809283662428917799noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-64138906071569377762016-12-09T13:34:50.221-05:002016-12-09T13:34:50.221-05:00"Some organizations have a "two-deep&quo..."Some organizations have a "two-deep" rule where there's no one-on-one contact between a man and an underage boy or boys. But I have misgivings about that rule. It treats all men as presumptive pedophiles. That's sexist, unjust, and prejudicial. <br /><br />Moreover, it's arbitrary. Take a male child psychiatrist or psychologist. Won't he sometimes have one-on-one counseling sessions with boys? It's not intrinsically suspicious for a man to talk to a boy he's not related to. Teachers and coaches do that all the time. So do detectives. Some men are predators, but many men and natural mentors and protectors. Let's not overreact. "<br /><br />I once criticized the rationale behind this rule on Challies blog several years ago. Some hysterical women on the site suggested that I might be a child predator myself, for criticizing it. Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05690738239872948496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-25368795443411792092016-12-08T09:22:28.668-05:002016-12-08T09:22:28.668-05:00IMO, children need to be taught about sex progress...IMO, children need to be taught about sex progressively early on, year by year, in a way that's appropriate to their age. They need to know sufficiently enough early on to know what molestation is and why it's wrong. Included in that is an advanced warning that molesters will threaten them and/or their families (e.g. with bodily harm or shame) if they talk, and that they shouldn't listen to their lies. That the molesters are more afraid than they are of the truth coming out. That they need to tell their parents immediately if it happens no matter who it is. Whether a relative (e.g. an uncle, grandfather etc.), a pastor, a neighbor et cetera. Parents need to also tell their children that if it happens they may feel confused and guilty because they may have liked it to some extent. But that the molesters are abusing them by doing something to them in an area of their body and of their humanity/personhood that's special and which should be reserved for a loving marriage when they're older according to God's benevolent plan. <br /><br />Presumably, children don't speak up (usually) because of fear of retribution or because of feelings of guilt and confusion. Parents need to give this type of talk about molestation frequently. Like 3 times a year so they don't forget and so they react correctly by instinct.<br /><br />Parents also need to do their best to minimize instances of anyone being alone with their child/children in their youth. Of course, this is nearly impossible to do absolutely. <br /><br />Parents also need to advertise the fact to others that their children know what molestation is and that they're trained to tell their parents immediately of any instances of molestation. Also, that they, as parents, have no qualms about immediately contacting police of any possible instance of molestation. That way any potential molester will hesitant to molest their children. In fact, that itself may be enough to cause some molesters to target other children instead of theirs, just as thieves will quickly bypass stealing from a home with "Beware of Dog" and NRA signs. For them it's too risky and too much of a hassle. <br /><br />Molesters target parents just as much as they do the children. They ask themselves, "Are these parents too trusting? Have they educated their children about molestation? Can I get away with it with this family? etc."ANNOYED PINOYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00714774340084597206noreply@blogger.com