tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post2346608336427043963..comments2024-03-27T17:15:37.606-04:00Comments on Triablogue: Like a horse and carriageRyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17809283662428917799noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-28395815187535900912008-07-02T14:36:00.000-04:002008-07-02T14:36:00.000-04:00Well, let's see. The title of the web page it's a...Well, let's see. The title of the web page it's an "expose" of the courtship movement. That's hardly neutral language. And what I primarily objected to is the underlying assumption that parents have to have an unhealthy level of control over their kids in order for courtship to work. I object to the assertion that because I'm willing to facilitate a courtship for my son, that that makes me a bad and unbiblical parent. The author makes a hasty generalization with no warrant.<BR/><BR/>I agree with the website author that forced betrothal is a bad idea, and that the Old Testament civil laws regarding such things are not applicable to us. I mean, we don't have Levirate marriages anymore either do we? The author's exegesis of the Biblical text is sound, but none of those passages speaks against parents being involved in the courtship/dating lives of their offspring. In my opinion, the author throws the baby out with the bathwater.Jonahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13261273762380915910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-89554156536161216902008-07-02T12:19:00.000-04:002008-07-02T12:19:00.000-04:00The comment Jonah left seemed to be a tad bit bias...The comment Jonah left seemed to be a tad bit biased, don't you think? How do we know Jonah's sense of bias in other people's works is not just anecdotal of his own modus operandi? Maybe bias wasn't the issue, but rather Jonah disagreed with the conclusion of the article? Of course if that's the case he could <I>argue</I> against the conclusions of the article, but it's easier to dismiss them as bias.Peter Pikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11792036365040378473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-18298036391412055962008-07-02T11:52:00.000-04:002008-07-02T11:52:00.000-04:00That web link Steve posted is by someone just a ta...That web link Steve posted is by someone just a tad biased, don't you think? How do we know that the problem situations described are not just anecdotal? Maybe the courtship process wasn't the issue?<BR/><BR/>Here's how I plan to handle things with my son when he gets old enough to start thinking along these lines. If he wants to engage in the "courtship" type process with a young lady I will be happy to facilitate it. OTOH, if he'd rather "traditionally date" (whatever that means these days), then I will restrict what he can do until he's 18 and I will put limits on who he sees and where and when. I will also teach him to not put himself in positions that will tempt him to sin, so that when he is an adult and is on his own, he'll know how to go about dating responsibly.Jonahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13261273762380915910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-2172981597381453612008-07-02T08:49:00.000-04:002008-07-02T08:49:00.000-04:00If done right, I think of dating as a screening pr...If done right, I think of dating as a screening process. Do you like this person? Do you share the same values, priorities, and expectations? Are you a lark while she's a night owl?stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16547070544928321788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-86429602361405574282008-07-02T08:46:00.000-04:002008-07-02T08:46:00.000-04:00Here's some material on "Biblical Courtship":http:...Here's some material on "Biblical Courtship":<BR/><BR/>http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/largerhope/Courtship%20&%20Betrothal%20Essays/courtship%20index.htmstevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16547070544928321788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-11729146942270704992008-07-01T15:24:00.000-04:002008-07-01T15:24:00.000-04:00My wife wrote (IMHO) an excellent post about this ...My wife wrote (IMHO) an excellent post about this issue which you can find <A HREF="http://blogogetics.com/2008/06/singleness-is-not-a-sin/" REL="nofollow">HERE</A>.<BR/><BR/>"I think loneliness is a battle that needs to be conquered in order to be content with the portion that God has blessed us with. We don’t deserve anything, so when God does bless us with our husband or wife, we can be 100 percent sure it is a gift from God and we will appreciate that person even more."archshrkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05692804883679708643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6789188.post-43731248571095936642008-07-01T13:31:00.000-04:002008-07-01T13:31:00.000-04:00I guess this is closely related enough...Steve, I ...I guess this is closely related enough...Steve, I remember you once commenting that you felt dating was superior to courtship (not sure if you used those exact words). Could you explain why? Is there a biblical basis for either? Thanks.Matheteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13527032591499860552noreply@blogger.com